There is a difference between Loneliness and Solitude,
One will empty you and one will fill you.
You have the power to choose. — Rumi
If you are afraid to be alone, it means you’re afraid of your thoughts. There is always a particular thought that triggers any stressful feeling. It could be you thinking of something that you don’t have and thus you tend to give yourselves a lot of discomfort. So do you always believe what you think? The way out is to always question your thoughts and question the thoughts behind your unhappiness. The unspoken belief is that unless people approve of me, I’m worthless , useless and unsuccessful. We tend to see and evaluate our existence based on the judgements given by others. This constant need to seek love, attention, admiration and approval is the main reason of a feeling of emptiness within us. Its only when you learn to be comfortable with yourself will you admire the power of silence and solitude.
During testing times of the pandemic, the world is trying to deal with grief and loss. Unable to make social connections, many are driven to confinement and loneliness. How does one learn to deal with this? The essence of existence is then to accept and start being comfortable with loneliness and this demands that we start getting comfortable with ourselves first.
A season of loneliness and isolation is when a catepillar gets its wings Mandy Hale
A deep introspection of these questions may help you.
WHO AM I ?
Ask yourself this question over and over again . Dig deeper into yourself and peel the outer layers of your personality just like how we peel the layers of an onion to reach the inner core. This is your true self. Accept and acknowledge it, only then will you be comfortable with yourself. You can cut all the clutter and noise and the silence will no longer invoke fear or depression but a gentle wave of joy and peace will surround you.
So, do you tend to associate your identity to your profession or your relationships status ? Have you discovered something more about yourself ? Did this lead you to recollect and rekindle a part of you that lay hidden beneath the sheets of societal and parental conditioning. How do I treat myself ? Do I pity myself? Do I see myself as a victim of my circumstances? The crucial part is that our mind gets stuck and we need to push ourselves to find reasons to move ourselves out of this rut.
If you’ve ever felt lonely before, you know just how badly it can hurt. Scientists have even called loneliness an epidemic due to how widespread and severe the isolation can seem in our modern way of living. We all have feelings of being alone in this world from time to time, but we can learn valuable lessons through the seemingly unbearable pain. The next time you feel lonely remember
“When you are evolving to your higher self, the road seems lonely. But you’re simply shedding energies that no longer match the frequency of your destiny.” – Unknown
Its your road and yours alone. Other may walk it along with you, but no one can walk it along with you.
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